Living Fearlessly

As I progress through my 25th year on this earth, I'm quickly learning that sometimes you've gotta go balls out for the things you want in life. No matter what it is, if it's something you've set your sights on - jump up and go for it. Travel plans? Dating? That promotion you've always wanted? Every lesson in my life has taught me a new version of this same concept. 

Every day, I care a little less about the opinions of strangers and acquaintances - even my peers don't always give the best advice. It's God that leads us to the places we're destined to be, which means most of the time we should be listening to the voice within ourselves. I've been subconsciously afraid all my life of what other people think of me. How much I help people was 50% personal desire to assist and 50% whether they'd be mad if I didn't. I'd overextend myself so much that I'd burn out! BUT - because I was so concerned with the next person's feelings - I'd stuff mine in my pocket and grin and bare it. It cost me many dollars and quite a few sleepless nights. 

Never no more. 

Last year I decided to do the things I always wanted to do - and they brought so much happiness to my life. I'd say what I felt when I felt it; not shooting from the hip, but with a lot less caution and worry. Human beings are not always receptive to honesty, but sometimes it's the only policy that works. Feels a lot better to the spirit when you get things off your chest. People will respect you for it, too! 

This new journey in my life brings me somewhere that I'm apparently known for - but is still a taboo issue. I'm really passionate about it, though - so if I take other people's opinions and thoughts into consideration, I'm destined to fail. So I won't. I listen to the ideas and suggestions of my immediate loved ones, who have helped me so much in finding myself and what I want to do with my life. Even when I ignore their suggestions, they still respect it - because I'm going out for mine. So far, it hasn't failed me. 

Today, I challenge you. Take one thing you've always wanted to do, say, touch, eat. One. Do it. Today. Now if you can. Don't wait until tomorrow - because you won't. Tell that person you love them, grab that fruit at the oriental market (buy it) - then go eat it! Don't get yourself hurt though, lol - I can't be responsible for that. 

Live fearlessly. Live YOUR Life. 

For the First Time...

I thought about this, and I had a few answers. 

I'm venturing into a whole new job role - from being in retail since I got my work permit. It's exciting to think of being in a different setting, with different people, using different work methods. 

I started my own official website; many times I've started the idea but didn't get the chance to finish it. Finally my love child is born and growing! 

Despite this - I need to do something waaayyy more exciting; spice it up! What to do, what to do... 

Delete, Delete - DELETE!

Every once in a while, you have to excommunicate yourself from a person or two in life. This week I did something like that. I don't judge anyone, but it irritates me to see someone living a life on the internet (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram) that doesn't reflect what's going on in their actual life. Or someone who tries to look like a great person on social networking sites, but is actually not in real life. It's easier for me to just make that person disapper. So I did. 

It makes me feel uncomfortable. I'm out here trying to live a better life and you're still scheming behind the scenes. Not a good look, buddy. 

I know you'll read this. I hope you get your life together and become a responsible man instead of the scammer that you really seem to be. 
Congrats, have a nice life! 

The Face Behind Le Vadge...

I mentioned a few weeks ago that I started a new website. It's not a blog at all - it's a full blown site for sexual health and education. People laughed at the idea of me starting the site, but clearly I found my niche; because we've already gotten over 1,900 views in the first two months! I am proud of my brainchild, and I can't wait to see what else can come of it. 

So, you may ask - what is the Vadge? Many, many years ago CousinJin, CousinJan and the rest of the Vadge crew decided to substitute the word Vagina with a much shorter version. It was easier to say around our parents as well as younger siblings - and we could get away with saying a lot of perverted stuff in public. When I was coming up with the name for my site - nothing else would do. 

What is the site about? It's an open forum for anyone (regardless of age, gender or sexual preference) to ask important, urgent - or even random questions about sex. All the things you've wanted to ask but were afraid to. "Straightforward answers to awkward questions" is the motto. So far, we've helped dozens of people get their answers, while including important facts from credible sources. Everything is cited, so you can research it for yourself - but I've done all the work for you. 

So many people (including my own gynecologist) asked me what made me decide to start the site. Growing up in Mount Vernon (NY), we always heard the statistics; second highest AIDS rate in Westchester County. That is startling! I've known kids whose parents had AIDS/HIV - I knew a young lady who passed away from being born with the disease. It was beyond her control to have it, but what about the kids who contract it from irresponsible sexual activity? What about the girls who are afraid to tell their moms about sexual activity, so they secretly carry symptoms of STD's with them indefinitely? They deserve to be educated on what they're doing, so they can pass that knowledge on to others. So kids can stop the reckless behavior and learn the importance of protection. I can't imagine being a doctor diagnosing a teenager with AIDS - imagine the devastation! 

It's not only awkward questions, we give fun facts as well as product reviews of sexual health and pleasure products. I'm working with Sir Richard's condoms, and I'm in the starting phases of doing reviews for California Exotic Novelties! Talk about the busiest unemployed woman you've ever met, lol

So stay tuned, and tell a friend about the site - if you try it, I promise you'll love it ;) 

http://vforvadge.com 

Curlbox September 2012 Box Opening Video - and What is Curlbox?

This time, I decided to talk a little bit about what CurlBox is exactly. I've had a lot of my friends ask about it, and it was about time I actually went into detail. If you've got natural hair, are transitioning to natural from chemical processes (perms, texturizers, keratin treatments) or considering going natural - this is definitely a service to look at. CousinJin and I have had the pleasure of meeting the Curlbox CEO Myleik Telee - and she's real passionate about giving us the red carpet treatment in product sampling. She hasn't disappointed yet, and this is my third box. I'll spend my last dollar to get one every month, because it's quality every time.  


Take a second and watch the video, let me know what you think. The concept of CurlBox is genius, and I'm convinced the products I've gotten so far have really help speed up the process of growing my hair back out after my Pixie cut . May not be for everybody, but it damn sure is for anybody. 

www.curlbox.com to get on the exclusive list, or go Like them on Facebook and see what other curly-haired ladies are talking about :) 







My September Box Opening Video - and What Is CurlBox? 

Miguel - Arch & Point ((Official Video))

I've been following Miguel since I fell in love with J. Cole's "All I Want Is You" track. His tone, his rifts were so different yet on point. After that day I was all over YouTube, downloading any single I could get my hands on. I must say, he has evolved so much since then; constantly perfecting his live voice, studio skills, instrument choices and composition. I am musically in love with him right now - and he's on a streak. I love when the indie underdog comes out on top, he's definitely one of them.

The Art Dealer Chic EP is on fire in my car right now, Vol 2 has this track called Arch & Point that has to be the sickest song I've heard in weeks. It's extremely suggestive, but not raunchy. Even the video is an abstract sexual encounter. 

The lyrics are under the video. 

Something for you to sway to... 

Miguel - "Arch & Point"...

Miguel-Arch & Point-Official video from Miguel on Vimeo.

Arch And Point

Yeah
Black leather skirt and a leopard print shirt, whoa
We can skip dinner, headed straight for desert whoa oho
But when it feels so good then it comes natural
Baby arch your back, and point your toes

Ballerina smart, but your sex like art woaoh
See rhythm is a talent it can not be a taught whoa oho ohh
When it feels so good then it just comes natural
Baby arch your back and point your toes
Oh, you see I don't suppose
Mhm, that every good girl know
No, oh oh what every bad girl knows
So baby arch your back and point your toes yeah

Fishnet body suit birthday cake, whoa
Fetish is a pleasure that cannot be faked whoa, oh
But when it feels this good then it just comes natural
Baby arch your back and point your toes

Oh, polaroid flash baby anything goes
Feel it all don't keep your eyes closed
Cause when it feel this good babe it just come natural
Baby arch your-
You know what to do
Yeah, yeah baby
You know I don't suppose
Oh that every good girl knows (Yeah)
Only every bad girl knows (Yeah)
Say arch go back and point your toes yeah
Mhm, mhm
Baby arch your back, and point your toes

Random Thoughts...

I look around his apartment, my stuff is everywhere. Like it should be. Come and go as I please, cook dinner at my place, sometimes at his. Movie nights at home and takeout, double dates with friends. Titles. I freaking love titles.

Who are we kidding, most of us like titles. It defines the relationship, solidifies all we've been doing to get to know each other for all these months. The dates, the slow progression - meeting parents and all that. This is the goal, and we're here. The thug in me already acknowledged this fact and allowed it; I can put my heart into this relationship without worry. Cuz let's face it, I've dated some undeserving guys. This though, feels right. Friends become the best lovers, partners - futures. One day at a time of course.

Instead of diving in headfirst, we dipped our ankles in then our feet. Baby steps. The wise way. No public eye, no envious lips - just us. Dare I say Bey and Jay 2.0? Lol - we shall see...

Frank Ocean - "Pyramids" feat. John Mayer - ((Official Video))

The infamous Mr. Ocean is back - and this video (produced by Nabil) didn't disappoint. The abstract concept leaves much to decipher - with special emphasis on the pyramidal diagram in neon lights at the end. This is definitely worth a triple take, and is added to the repertoire of quality work by Frank Ocean. Love him! Frank Ocean feat. John Mayer - "Pyramids"...